I’ve heard and witnessed firsthand plenty of “excitement”
from friends and acquaintances to fill the void in my life. I don’t relish in their misfortunes. I assume I’m hearing those things for a
reason and the best explanation I’ve come up with thus far is that they are
reminders of how fortunate I really have been.
These misfortunes run the gamut from fearful (being so buried in debt
that you have to live from paycheck to paycheck) to insane (rushing to your
girlfriend’s house because she’s threatened suicide multiple times unless you
abandon the plans you had with your friends) to truly ugly (leaving your new
wife who is carrying your unborn child while her parents deliriously plead with
you to stay and her young son from a previous marriage looks on). I’ve never been in ANY of those kinds of
positions. Some of these situations I’ve
been present for, but I obviously wasn’t the center of attention. In a selfish moment, I might have even lamented
about being forced to “deal” with the issue.
I’ve never put any others in these
kinds of situations, so this seems unfair.
But my role in dealing with it is nothing more than disrupting my plans
(which are likely none if you know me) and offering inept words of advice (which
is hardly too much to ask). At the end
of the day, I can move on and not have that black cloud looming over me. Those people weren’t so lucky.
Yes, I’m fairly skilled at keeping the car on the road and
avoiding the big potholes. Some will say
that’s not life, it’s suicide by tiny increments. Maybe there’s something to be said for that.
I’ve often wondered what I’m missing out on.
That wonder sometimes leads to tears as I drift ahead fifty years to a
life that was lived unfulfilled and alone.
Then I need to remind myself that I do indeed participate in myriad fun
activities and I do have people around me.
So what if I’m not living life the same way as many of my
counterparts? I have no idea what their life
journey is all about and the path I’m on may be solely reserved for me (sure
feels that way sometimes). When it comes
to life, I do think you need to look at it in a vacuum. Are you happy with the path you’re on? If not, then change it. I think for the most part I am.
Sorry, I didn’t mean for this to get all philosophical. It was intended to be an expression of thanks
to the powers that be and those around me who have given me so very much to be
thankful for. My parents – they’ve
always been there for me. They’ve
allowed me to live at home and continue saving towards that house I’ve promised
to buy (I swear, it’ll happen). Money
has never been an issue and their extended hospitality has largely made that
possible. Smart, responsible decisions
with the money I’ve accumulated are also a major reason behind my financial
stability, but even that I have my dad to thank for. My friends – you’ve always reached out to me
way more than I’ve ever come to you.
Even when I’ve casually dismissed your requests to hang out, you come
back for more. I’m painfully aware that
a relationship with me (warning in advance to anyone seeking a larger role in
my life) is akin to pulling teeth. I’d
be even more of a recluse without your companionship. I’ve made it a goal of mine recently to show
up, even if just for a cameo, when I’m invited to something. If you think enough of me to extend an
invite, then I need to validate that decision. This goes for close friends or even just acquaintances. Most of you would fall into the latter bucket
as I’m pretty selective with the term “friend”, but more on that later.
Even those with a minor role in my life have played a larger
part than they could ever imagine. When
I post things like this, my imagination runs wild with what may blossom from
this seed I’ve planted. Feedback of any
kind, the proof that you’ve spared a few moments of your time to read my
thoughts brings a smile to my face. If
we’re not really close friends and you attend an event I organize (not all that
common as you’ve just learned), your appearance goes a long way. I don’t know why it means so much to me; it
just does. I’m not intelligent enough to
properly put it into words. I’m prone to
becoming depressed when a blog like this goes largely unnoticed or a shindig I
throw is sparsely attended. Yet again, I
must pull myself back from the ledge.
People aren’t trained to live their lives around me. Furthermore, this depression is a disservice
to the people who may read this and the people who do and have come to my
events.
So, I’d like to offer a whole-hearted thank you to everyone
for whatever role you’ve played in my life.
Even if I don’t fully understand or appreciate it at this point, I
believe I will some day. I can’t promise
there won’t be more of the “woe is me” diatribe in the future, but for now, I’m
in a good place. It may be dull at
times, but life’s good. Very good.
Did you just grand tichu? Get 2 HR's from Marco Scutaro? Bowl a 300? Reconcile your bank statement? Decide on a new facial hairstyle? Strike out a cleanup hitter with a backdoor slider? Get dealt a 3NT hand? Just trying to think of all the possible reasons Dave Younker could be jovial this evening, but I'm happy for you, whatever the reason.
ReplyDeleteI'll try to make you smile by revealing that I try to read many of the things you've posted online. Whether I concur or not, your point of view intrigues me. And in several ways, you remind me of myself sometimes. That's not intended to frighten you ;-) Keep on keepin' on, kid.
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