In geometry class as a freshman, I sat next to a junior
named Doug Schreurs for roughly a semester.
Doug and I were never friends.
Our entire interaction consisted of short conversations that took place between
the time we arrived at our seats and the time the bell rang to start
class. With the exception of two
occasions, I can’t even tell you what we discussed.
The first chat I recall involved Doug asking
to borrow my notebook so he could copy my notes. This was near the end of the first semester so
the all-important cumulative final was forthcoming. Doug had missed a few days recently and I
don’t think his notes were all that detailed to begin with. I always took copious notes and, as you might
have guessed, was proud of my work. Doug
was a nice enough guy and he was perfectly willingly to talk to a lowly
freshman, even a nerdy one like me. So I
lent him the notebook without thinking twice about the gesture.
The second conversation that remains with me
is when Doug returned the notebook to me.
Sounding entirely relieved and confident that my notes had put him on
the right path to passing the exam, he thanked me and called me a “life saver”.
I’m not really sure why but his words
made me feel good about myself. Maybe
the confirmation of my notebook’s utmost quality was just what my bloated ego
needed to hear. Maybe it was the good
will I had accrued from truly helping a fellow student in need. Looking back, I’ll never forget those exact
words of gratitude.
Doug Schreurs was killed in a car accident less than a
week later, prior to the semester final.
My good deed? Doug’s hard work to
catch up and prepare for the final? All
of it had been for naught. Looking at
that empty seat for the rest of the semester, I couldn’t fill the hollow space
in my gut. It didn’t make sense. I’ve certainly had people much closer to me who
have passed away, and my day-to-day life didn’t change going forward. Still, it can’t be coincidence that this is
one of the first memories that came to mind when considering a life lesson learned in ninth grade.
I’m not entirely sure
what the takeaway is from this story, but here’s my feeble stab at it. Everyone you come across in your life has a
role to play, no matter how brief their stay is. They are the vessel by which a message is
being delivered. Keep your eyes and mind
open to absorb it.
I’m reminded of Mitch
Albom’s best-selling book “The Five
People You Meet in Heaven” (a worthwhile read). I’m not sure if there’s such a thing as heaven
(I want there to be) and I don’t know if I’ll be lucky enough to be allowed in. But there’s something comforting in the book’s
concept. We get a chance to re-learn the
most important lessons in life from people who have impacted ours. These people could be anybody, even somebody
you’ve long since forgotten. Maybe Doug
is one of my five people, waiting there for me to help put all the pieces
together. In the meantime, I’ll try to live
this life – the present – for all
that it’s worth.
"All endings are beginnings. We just don't know it at the time."
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